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“Fear & Confidence”
Do you Fear Success?
Do you suffer from "The curse of the procrastinating perfectionist?" It's basically a pre-disposition that has you putting off what needs to be done until you absolutely HAVE to do it. And then expecting the end result to be nothing short of perfection.
Recognizing the negative patterns of this fear and nipping them in the bud could be the key to overcoming them and turning frustration into triumph.
So… are you sabotaging your own success? Here are some clues that you might be:
1. Jumping into a project or enterprise before fully understanding what you need to do.
If you see yourself in any of these, you're probably sabotaging your success.
Analyze the situation for a moment. Peel back the layers to determine just what it is that's keeping you from your goals. Are you afraid of change? Do you lack self-confidence? Are you afraid what people might say? Own up to it, whatever it is, and work through it so you can move forward.
Success isn't some unattainable, elusive thing. It's there for the taking. All you have to do it take the necessary, appropriate steps. Because once you do and get on with your life, you'll kick yourself for not getting started sooner.
Source: Diana Pemberton-Sikes
“What Is Your Art Really About?”
The book Art & Fear explores the way art gets made, the reasons it often doesn't get made, and the nature of the difficulties that cause so many artists to give up along the way.
:::Book Excerpts:::
* This is a book about what it feels like to sit in your studio or classroom, at your wheel or keyboard, easel or camera, trying to do the work you need to do. It is about committing your future to your own hands, placing Free Will above predestination, choice above chance. It is about finding your own work.
* A book about making art. Ordinary art. Ordinary art means something like: all art not made by Mozart. After all, art is rarely made by Mozart-like people - essentially (statistically speaking) there aren't any people like that. But while geniuses may get made once-a-century or so, good art gets made all the time. Making art is a common and intimately human activity, filled with all the perils (and rewards) that accompany any worthwhile effort. The difficulties art-makers face are not remote and heroic, but universal and familiar.
* Art is made by ordinary people. Creatures having only virtues can hardly be imagined making art. It's difficult to picture the Virgin Mary painting landscapes. Or Batman throwing pots. The flawless creature wouldn't need to make art.
* Making art and viewing art are different at their core. The sane human being is satisfied that the best he/she can do at any given moment is the best he/she can do at any given moment. That belief, if widely embraced, would make this book unnecessary, false, or both. Such sanity is, unfortunately, rare. Making art provides uncomfortably accurate feedback about the gap that inevitably exists between what you intended to do, and what you did. In fact, if art making did not tell you (the maker) so enormously much about yourself, then making art that matters to you would be impossible. To all viewers but yourself, what matters is the product; the finished artwork. To you, and you alone, what matters is the process: the experience of shaping that artwork. The viewers' concerns are not your concerns (although it's dangerously easy to adopt their attitudes.) Their job is whatever it is: to be moved by art, to be entertained by it, to make a killing off it, whatever. Your job is to learn to work on your work.
* The function of the overwhelming majority of your artwork is simply to teach you how to make the small fraction of your artwork that soars. One of the basic and difficult lessons every artist must learn is that even the failed pieces are essential.
Art & Fear: Observations On the Perils (and Rewards) of Artmaking David Bayles (Author), Ted Orland (Author)
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Digital Illustration”
Fear of failure is one of the greatest fears people have. Fear of failure is closely related to fear of criticism and fear of rejection. Successful people overcome their fear of failure. Fear incapacitates unsuccessful people.
The Law of Feedback states: there is no failure; there is only feedback. Successful people look at mistakes as outcomes or results, not as failure. Unsuccessful people look at mistakes as permanent and personal.Most people self-limit themselves. Most people do not achieve a fraction of what they are capable of achieving because they are afraid to try because they are afraid they will fail.
These steps will help to overcome your fear of failure and move yourself forward to getting the result you desire:
Step One: Take action. Bold, decisive action. Do something scary. To overcome this fear, you must act. When you act, act boldly and confidently.
Action gives you the power to change the circumstances or the situation. You must overcome the inertia by doing something. Dr. Robert Schuller asks, "What would you do if you knew you could not fail?" What could you achieve? Get it together and just do it. If it doesn't work out the way you want, then do something else. But DO SOMETHING NOW.
Step Two: Persist. Successful people just don't give up. They keep trying different approaches to achieving their outcomes/goals until they finally get the results they want. Unsuccessful people try one thing that doesn't work and then give up. Often people give up when they are on the threshold of succeeding.
Step Three: Don't take failure personally. Failure is about behavior, outcomes, and results. Failure is not a personality characteristic. Although what you do may not give you the result you wanted, it doesn't mean you are a failure. Because you made a mistake, doesn't mean that you are a failure. “If at first you don’t succeed, try and try again.”
Step Four: Do things differently. If what you are doing isn't working, do something else. If you're not getting the results you want, then you must do something different. Make changes in your efforts. Many people stop doing anything at all, and this guarantees they won't be successful.
Step Five: Don't be so hard on yourself. Hey, if nothing else, you know what doesn't work. Failure is a judgment or evaluation of behavior. Not a personal attack on your character. Look at failure as an event or a happening that needs modification.
Step Six: Treat the experience as an opportunity to learn. Think of failure as a learning experience. What did you learn from the experience that will help you in the future? How can you use the experience to improve yourself or your situation? Ask yourself these questions:
(1) What was the mistake?
Then use what you learned from the experience to do things differently so you get different results next time. Learn from the experience or ignore it.
Step Seven: Look for possible opportunities that result from the experience. Napoleon Hill, author of Think and Grow Rich, says "every adversity, every failure and every heartache carries with it the seed of an equivalent or a greater benefit." Look for the opportunity and the benefit.
Step Eight: Fail forward fast. We learn is by making mistakes. So if we want to learn at a faster pace, we must make mistakes at a faster pace. The key is that you must learn from the mistakes you make so you don't repeat them.
Although we all make mistakes, fear of failure doesn't have to cripple you. As self-help author Susan Jeffers says, "feel the fear and do it anyway."
“Fear”
Surrendering to Your Fears?
Feel the fear and accept the feeling. Don’t try to fight it or to keep it out (like many of us have learned throughout life). Say yes to it. Surrender and let it in. Observe the feeling in your mind and body without labeling or judging it. If you let it in – for me the feeling then often seems physically locate itself to the middle of my chest – and just observe it for maybe a minute or two something wonderful happens. The feeling just vanishes.
As you surrender to the fear instead of fighting it the negative energy will pass through you and your body will release it. And you can return to focusing on the here and now.
Focusing on the now not only reduces fear but also increases the chances of you succeeding as your mind is focused, your confidence isn’t shattered and your thoughts become clear. It also makes it easier to succeed because when you are in the now you are not that self-conscious – something that quickly can lead to insecurity – but instead focused on the outside world and people you are interacting with.
Redefining You, Me and Reality…
To change yourself and overcome fear you have to be prepared and willing to redefine yourself. You have to be willing to try things out for yourself and keep practicing. No one can do it for you. Once you get use to it, less fearful behaviors become more and more habitual and you begin to do them naturally.
Since it seems that just about everyone is addicted to their own personality, consistent change in behavior will still probably be kind of slow and gradual (with some epiphanies). Try to stay positive, it can lessen the fear in your mind of what might happen in a new, unfamiliar situation or how someone might respond to what you are saying or doing. A negative view of the world can create fear and hold you back.
Source: [Excerpts] “5 life-changing keys to overcoming your fear”
by Henrik Edberg
What It Means To Succeed…
One must define what it means to be personally successful. It is not something that can be read in a dictionary. Having that in mind, here is advice from some very wise sources:
"Try not to become a man of success but rather try to become a man of value."
"Success usually comes to those who are too busy to be looking for it."
What are the causes of failure and success?
Another big cause of success is discipline. "The ability to discipline yourself to delay gratification in the short term in order to enjoy greater rewards in the long term is the indispensable prerequisite for success." Brian Tracy
And yet another cause is the willingness to try to succeed even if the possibility of success is remote. "Far away in the sunshine are my highest aspirations. I may not reach them, but I can look up and see the beauty, believe in them and try to follow where they lead." Louisa May Alcott (1832-1888) American Writer
Source: Ezine Articles.com
The Master Manipulator
Ah, yes, fear... the master manipulator, the great deceiver. Most living creatures know fear, it is innate, instinctual, a primitive survival tool. Yet only humans dwell, ruminate and are haunted by their fears. For many of us fears can be paralyzing.
Setting upon a course that acknowledges your fear, but is not limited by it, is the best form of liberation. Choosing to step outside of one’s comfort into the unknown, exploring new options, is why we have the ability to think and analyze. I am not brave, and I have seen the depths of failure, but I am determined not to be held back by self-doubt. Try and try again to overcome the things that hold you back. It may not be easy, but it is a rewarding journey of discovery.
Do you have a fear of success? A fear of failure? Are you sabotaging your own success, your own future? Share your story.
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“Actually, as the saying goes - Without the benefit to live - untimely death.”
From = Malina
“In response; OutSider Art Honesty ... Scource Excerpts from spyrock.com:
“It occurs to me, on your [blog], that it breeds too much so-called own commentary by readers who blurt out anything (smile).”
From = novel Morozov
The artist Jan Kölling
shares -- Rimbaud: “I found it.”
Congratulations to the Winners of the Digitalism II Contest and Exhibit at MOCA
1st Prize - Peter Ciccariello - "Syzygy V"
This page posted 16 November 2009
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